Eye-contact

—“Our eyes met.” I noticed I always say that about meeting a female.
A while ago my lifeguard friend at Canandaigua’s YMCA swimming-pool mentioned my eye-contact seemed much stronger.
Years ago there wasn’t any.
Now I fish for it.
It’s a way of inadvertently telling that female she attracted me.
No lust; no evil intent.
I’ve yet to get smacked. 99% of the time our eyes meeting never bombs.
I’m telling that female I’d like to talk to her, although I ask first: “can I ask you a question?”
Never push yourself on a female. Asking first always get a positive response.
I put that female on notice: now she wants to hear what I say.
Things are much different since my wife died. Before I avoided people.
I also deduced a few tricks about talking with females.
For one thing, if a female starts talking to you, Let ‘er!
A lady is talking to you = she wants to.
Don’t interrupt; don’t even ask for clarification. I can usually get that later.
Most women aren’t assertive like men. If someone tries to take over a conversation, the lady will duck.
Interrupting is trying to take over the conversation.
Let her talk. Her talking to me is precious.
I get to hear her pretty voice, and she gets to interact with a dude not hitting on her.
“You are so compliant!” my lifeguard friend once told me.
“I’m a Liberal (“GASP!”), so I don’t push myself on you,” I thought to myself later.
If I did, that lifeguard and I wouldn’t be friends.
“I got a story if you wanna hear it.”
She wants to hear my story.
Eye-contact tells that female I wanna talk with her — and women love to talk.
Often it’s pointless yammering; the simple exchange of emotions back and forth.
DO IT!
“Can I say something to you?” and off we go.
I just told that female she attracted me.
She’ll wanna talk.

• My beloved wife died of cancer over nine years ago.